Life After Birth Trauma - Book Review
Life After Birth Trauma - Book Review
This is such an important book for our times. To know that annually over 30,000 women, with live births, are suffering some form of significant birth trauma, some form of lasting effect from the process of the birth of their child, that has in some cases affected their lives ever since that moment. This doesnt include the obviously traumatic outcome of stillbirth, which is not included in the above figure.
It is a real honour for me to be asked to review this book ahead of publication. Ive been in professional practice since 2003 as a kinesiologist and Integral practitioner, using a multi-disciplinary integrated approach to health.
In my time I have worked with many couples and women from pre-conception, to support during pregnancy, to assisting inducing labour naturally, to post-partum and post-traumatic psychological and physiological work and scar trauma work (for C-section scars) and more.
Given how much I have heard and seen over the last 17yrs, I was shocked at how much of horror show it was to read the experiences of the brave authors of this amazing book. I really have a great deal of respect for this group of people talking about something that had such a dramatic effect on their lives in the aim of helping others suffer less. Im not shocked easily, but some parts of what was shared here shocked me deeply.
I have heard so many stories that are similar to these, about women not being listened to, not being respected, told they are being hysterical or that because it is their first child they should listen to someone with more experience (even when it turns out, in many cases, that the mother was right to question). It is frankly disturbing, in some of these stories, to hear how people have been treating other people, when they are scared, confused, exhausted and needing clarity and support.
One of the things I love about this book is that no matter how sad and upsetting any of the stories are, the amazing women and men who wrote them have used that experience to better themselves and their lives and in many cases the lives of others. And it also highlights the front line medical workers who were a godsend and of great support to those during their labour and beyond.
There is a wealth of not only great experience being shared in the book, things that these trauma sufferers think you should be aware of, but there is also a great many resources that are being suggested, links to useful websites and things to consider and be aware of for your own life both pre and post birth.
A number of the authors have now gone on to create businesses that are specifically for the help of parents and children and for those with birth trauma and special educational needs.
They have provided some exceptional dos and don'ts in the book, ways to help you prepare and plan for your birth process, some of which, rightly so, speaks about pre-conception advice.
To support the launch of the book I have also been interviewing some of the authors for my podcast, which you will see released over the first 10 days of April 2020 and can be accessed here https://www.spreaker.com/user/lifeforcepatterning
One of the authors I have interviewed is Jackie Allatson, who following her own birth trauma experience, is now a qualified midwife and Birth Trauma Resolution Practitioner and can provide significant support to women who have experienced birth trauma. She even offers to provide Positive Birth Rehearsal sessions for women who are pregnant, to help with laying the best foundations they can ahead of the big event.
I feel that as a resource, this book is going to open up some important conversations between women, between mothers and their daughters in society as a whole. We are going to learn that there are far more of these issues than was previously considered and we are going to come together more as a community of those going through pregnancy and birth and those who can support that to be as healthy and natural process as possible.
I should make it clear at this point, there is also a great deal of gratitude and support for the front line medical services that helped women and their children survive some very difficult times. And that I am all in favour of their work continuing with improvements in how they relate to and work with women in these very difficult situations.
In the holistic community, we perhaps understand the importance of this in a different way and it is the integration and marrying of both sides of this coin that give us all the best options for going forward and providing the best aspects from both models for the greater good of all those involved.
If you have any questions or would like any help with your own birth trauma issues, then you can contact me me here https://bencalder.co.uk/contact/
In the mean time, get yourself to one of the usual places and get yourself a copy of this book https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/1916068618?ref_=pe_3052080_397514860 .